Instead, I took the advice of St. Paul who expressed this universal principle beautifully:
Everything is shown up by being exposed to the light, and whatever is exposed to the light itself becomes light.
Instead of continuing to withdraw from the friendship in order to protect myself or remove myself without any explanation, it was so much better to discuss my feelings and needs with my friend, openly and honestly, without any pretense or bullshit. There was much more to be gained than lost and this was definitely a friendship worth mending.
Now that we’ve talked and I’ve shared my feelings, I no longer have anything to hide, protect, or project. The darkness has disappeared and everything has come into the light.
And you know what? I also feel lighter mentally and physically - a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. No matter how the future unfolds, I know I was authentic and genuine and that feels really good.
Ideally, I’d like all of my relationships to be founded on love, trust and reciprocity. With that being said, it’s important to realize that we’re all human, we all make mistakes and we all need forgiveness and understanding. Myself included.
Have you ever had to navigate through a difficult friendship situation? What did you do to improve things?
P.S. Can you tell I’ve been reading books by Brené Brown? Highly recommend. And make sure you watch this, too. It’s inspiring and thought-provoking.